Marital Rape - Marriage, Sex and My Choice

Marital Rape – Marriage, Sex and My Choice

Marital Rape is defined as an act of sexual intercourse with one’s spouse without the consent of the other spouse. It is quite a recent phenomenon that has caught the Western world’s fancy. Till the 1970s, very few countries considered marital Rape as a crime, and now talks are on to make it a crime in India as well.

Marital Rape tests the very basis of marriage. Human history is just 2,00,000 years old. Most civilizations don’t go back further than 3000 years of recorded history. History before that is a combination of Myths and folktales.

Till the roles of the sexes started merging in the late 19th Century, males were expected to go out, earn, and provide for themselves, whereas females were expected to stay at home and tend. Chastity among females was more valued than among males. In most cultures, including Islam and Hinduism, males were allowed polygamy, whereas polyandry was rare and, even when practised amongst the same clan of males, was known as fraternal polyandry.

Marriage itself rose from the need for consolidation of property or resources. Whether it was polygamy or Polyandry, the basic need was to ensure that land remained intact and stayed within the same family. In areas with vast resources and violent communities which were constantly at war to gather more and more resources, and high death rates resulted from these violent contacts, polygamy meant a high chance of survival for a few of the offspring to survive and benefit from the resources. Another aspect that cannot be missed here is that the natural number of surviving females in these communities was more than that of males. Fraternal Polyandry was practised in areas with scarce resources, and the idea was to limit the human population and enhance child survival. Many people from polyandrous clans used to renounce their claims on land by being celibates or priests. Let’s think that Polyandry is a thing of the past. The Malwa region in Punjab and the Mewat region in Haryana, which has seen a significant gender imbalance due to female infanticide and shrinking land holdings, have many cases of Polyandry, and the cases are growing at a fast pace.

Marriage thus gave a license to the adults to engage in sexual acts for procreation as per the needs of the tribe or place by various forms of it. Sex outside marriage is considered a sin by all religions mainly because that can give rise to bastardization. Adultery, thus, is a punishable offence for women in Islam, and the adulterer is punished in common-law countries. This is the reason even though prostitution was &is rampant in all communities, the prostitutes and their offspring had no rights. However, no Feminist ever stood up to have adulterous women punished.

Most Feminists have used the victim card and demanded favourable laws in the name of equality. Again, marital-rape-demanding feminists want to play their victim card and seek lop-sided laws. This is right after Deepika Padukone famously portrayed:

My choice,

To marry, or not to marry,

To have sex before marriage, to have sex out of marriage, or to not have sex

However, with time, our race rose to a notion called equality. Equality was first practised through Communism. Even before women’s rights became the talking point amongst the ruling classes of the US and elsewhere, Communism embraced it. Marx spoke of the equality of the sexes, thus increasing the working class to include 50% of the population. Mao also went a step forward and, in his historic address after the Chinese Revolution of 1949, said, “Times have changed, and today men and women are equal. Whatever men comrades can accomplish, women comrades can too.”

Communism, being a fairy tale idea, also appealed to women of the West. You look at the articles, and you would see Feminism, Racial Discrimination, and Equality are all rolled together in a nasty concoction. But there is a skinny line separating the third world demand for equality, which is against oppression, discrimination & exploitation of women, giving them equal opportunities to study, work and decide and the other “women liberation”, urging the women to demand the “generosity” of governments for the privileged few, upper-class women.

“Times they are a changing”! Believe it or not, we live in the best times for equality. Never before had a Negro or a Shudra or an enslaved person or a woman had a chance to own property, run a business, be the head of the government or be a minister. And what have we sacrificed in all this equality? Nothing, merely a family.

Remember;

you are my choice,

I’m not your privilege.

The bindi on my forehead, the ring on my finger,

adding your surname to mine,

they’re all ornaments and can be replaced

Legislation after legislations in the west and then aped by the rest kept these nations falling prey to communism but at a great cost. The family system was destroyed. The average family size in erstwhile USSR is now 3.1 and in China 3.0 but it plummeted to 2.6 in USA and at 2.4 UK has the biggest families in Europe. And hear, hear, more females than males stay alone in all these countries. And hold hold hold, 5% of british fathers are already rearing a bastard.

My choice; to have your baby or not

To pick you from 7 billion choices or not.

Rape as a concept is about power; unfortunately, in India, it’s wrongly construed as physical power ONLY, and thus, a man cannot be raped or molested in India, legally speaking. In movies like Badrinath Ki Dulhania, when the male protagonist is molested by a group of men while saving the female protagonist, there are smiles and smirks by his co-stars because the concept of rape of a man is alien in India. I dare say that if Feminism is about equality, let them seek gender-neutral Marital Rape. Let there be equality in the eyes of the law, without the bias of gender; let there be equal rights given to a man who is in an abusive relationship and let there be parity in terms of their basic need between two partners who marry each other!!!

While the feminists are now demanding a premium on sex, they want a marriage premium. They want your ability to procreate taken over. They want their gender to decide; they want the power to control the other gender.

So don’t get cocky

My pleasure might be your pain

My songs, your noise

My order, your anarchy

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