Adultery in India : Rise in Adultery - Adulterous Relationships

Adultery: not a Taboo anymore in India

Since the very beginning of civilization, we have known marriage to be the most sacred and respected relationship. It is instead considered as a holy bond not only between two people but also between two families. Marriage has the highest place in our social system. Since childhood, we are taught that whatever you do, ultimately, you must get a good life partner and settle down. Everyone tells you how to be a good marriage material because marriage ensures physiological and biological satisfaction for a human being. So we grow up thinking that no matter what ranks, jobs or salaries we achieve, all this will be useless if we do not get a good life partner. Such a big deal is created around marriage that one always fears that they must stay in the marriage even if they are unhappy. But since the world is moving quickly, the ever-sacred marriage vows are losing their charm. Times have changed, and so have men’s and women’s roles in society. We live in a more liberated world now. We have so many technological tools at our disposal that we can easily access any information anywhere virtually. The changed scenario has created a well-aware, more opinionated and open-minded generation. The expectations are high, and the couples find it challenging to fit into the conservative mound; this leads to failed and broken marriages.

There are two types of marriages – No, we are not talking about love and arranged marriages, but the two types of marriages are successful and unsuccessful. If you have loved and then married or married or then loved, what matters is that your marriage is successful. India is known for long, successful marriages, marriages in which the partners have never met or seen each other, long-distance marriages, and marriages where partners have been chosen since childhood. But soon, we are pacing towards a nation with a high divorce rate and broken marriages. But why? As modern human beings, we need more patience and understanding. A small fight can turn into divorce these days. Earlier women felt bound even if they did not want to stay in the marriage; it was difficult for them to walk out because of family pressure, financial insecurity and no job. But women are independent; they have their family’s support, so even they find it easier to end the marriage.

Once in an unhappy marriage, a partner looks for peace in the arms of the third person. They feel that a third person can fill the void caused by the unloving partner. This gives rise to Adultery and extramarital affairs. The new relationship might offer freshness and passion, but it is not guaranteed to last. But the question is, why is Adultery on the rise in India? We must consider our society’s economic makeup to understand the answer to this question. Earlier, men and women had defined roles, i.e. men would earn the bread, and women would take care of the house. It was a default setting, no matter your family, education or lifestyle. So, men and women accepted it. Another factor is that no matter how your in-laws or husband treats you, you have no option but to stay with them. So, women had no financial independence, no freedom and no support to run out in a marriage. They adjusted to everything.

On the other hand, men were taught to care for the family and old parents, and they couldn’t do anything to destroy the home. Children were also instructed that their parents are the best judges for choosing a life partner. This is how society worked, and Adultery was a taboo.

Times changed, and women became more independent and opinionated. They started stepping out for jobs and education. They realised they had a say in their life, and soon, the conflict began. On the other hand, men had access to modern, outgoing women around them at the workplace or elsewhere. Both men and women had high desires for their partners, leading to unsatisfied marriages.

In many cases, this results in Adultery and infidelity. According to various statistics, which include surveys done by Outlook and India Today, more than 50% of men and women admit to having flings and affairs. Ashley Madison’s survey went one point further and said that now, in India, 76% of women and 61% of men don’t consider infidelity or Adultery as a sin or immoral act. So, women have beaten men at the game of acceptance of Adultery. While studies are conducted, it has also been revealed that many lose interest in having sex with their partner. All this leads to stress in the relationship, and new encounters always excite so much so that nearly 30% of the divorce cases filed in Metros have Adultery as a component, sometimes bold and other times as a lingering doubt.

We can’t put the cheater tag on only men anymore. Nowadays, women are equally adulterous and are having extramarital affairs. The modern women are no longer confined to their homes. They have access to the outside world and interact with many men other than their husbands. Today’s women bear no constraints and are not shy about experimentation. So, it would not be wrong to say that women are as unfaithful as men. The percentage of women having affairs outside marriage is increasing. The modern woman wants it all; she is ready to work, take care of the house and have exciting sexual encounters. Applications like Tinder and WhatsApp aid Adultery in the current generation; these applications and avenues were not available to the generations of yore.

Can adultery be stopped? This is a very tricky question because adultery has no one particular cause. It can happen because of emotional imbalance in marriage, sexual dissatisfaction, ego clashes and many other reasons that laws can cure. Infidelity is an individual question. Although there are laws that take care of adultery in marriage, no law can teach morality to anyone. In my opinion, this trend is going to increase rather than reverse.

In my view, we all must understand to our partners need. Whether men or women, respect your partner’s desires because adultery and broken marriages have the worst effect on innocent children of such partners. If you are battling adulterous spouse in your marriage and want to get rid of her, but don’t know how? I suggest you to contact me in person for seeking advice on these matters.

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